Guide #2. Sugar baby allowance
The money issue can be tricky when it comes to the question how much should a sugar daddy pay. Not every sugar daddy (if you are a newbie, check - what is a sugar daddy and a sugar baby definition ) knows what is the proper amount, what is generally okay or not okay when he gives an allowance to his sugar baby. Such questions as - how do you give the money? What is the average allowance? Do you pay in cash or make a card transfer? This sugar baby allowance guide will help you to make it clear. Moreover, there are some other expenses apart from the main allowance when we talk about a sugar relationship.
What is the average sugar baby allowance?
There are two common approaches.
Pay per visit
In this case you give the girl money after each of your dates. The prices may vary depending on the place you are located in. In the top cities like New York, Los Angeles or San Francisco there would be higher prices.
- lowest - $300
- average - $500
- top ladies - $500-1800
In the smaller cities prices are slightly lower.
- lowest - $200
- average - $300-500
- top lady - $800-1500
There is another way to agree a sugar baby monthly allowance: you can do it once a month with the bigger sum of money. Again, there is the difference between a monthly allowance for the ladies from the big cities and for the women from elsewhere.
- lowest - $2000
- average - $3000
- top ladies - $6000-10000
For the smaller cities the pay per meet are different.
- lowest - $1000
- average - $2000
- top ladies - $5000
Monthly sugar daddy allowance or “pay per date” system: what’s more beneficial?
When you know the prices you might still wonder what is more beneficial: to pay after every date or just give an allowance once a month? Let’s look through the pros of each method.
Benefits of allowance per visit
- it’s better when you don’t want to date very often
- preferred when you have several sugar babies at the same time
- you can stop the relationship anytime you want
Benefits of monthly allowance
- is more preferable for mid and long-term relations (2 months and more)
- you control the frequency of the dates
- if you want to meet often, there is no need to overpay
The money issue should always be discussed between the two to avoid any misunderstandings and disappointment. Quite useful is to read reddit discussion on allowance.
How often should you meet?
It is very personal and you have to share your idea of the dating frequency with a sugar baby. Usually it varies from 2 times a month to 2 or 3 times a week - it all depends on how much you want to spend time together and what you want to do on the dates - after all, it is not just sex, but also communication and even adventure as well. Again, there is another situation if you have several sugar babies at once. Then the frequency of your meetings will a lot depend on how much you are ready to contribute to these relationships financially.
The types of dates
Sugar dates. It is the most popular way to date your sugar baby. This kind of meetings usually includes a dinner in some fancy restaurant, a good communication and the hot night. A sugar daddy pays the bill at the restaurant and also makes sure that the hotel room, where a couple might stay, is in his financial responsibility.
Shopping dates. If you date a sugar baby more or less frequently, it would be a gentleman’s gesture to go shopping with your sugar babe. Buy her some glamorous outfits and it will be appreciated.
Out-of-town dates. You can get bored of the restaurants and hotels in the city and go out of the town to spend a couple of days in private. Usually such dates are held in the country clubs with some luxurious leisure.
Business trips dates. If you, as a sugar daddy have a lot of business trip, you can find a sugar baby beforehand in a place you are going to visit. It’s a good way to spend time in unfamiliar place with fun and good companionship.
Vacation dates. After the hard work sugar daddies find it pleasant to go have a rest abroad. And why don’t you bring a sugar baby with you? It is a great way to spend your time with pleasure and bring home the good memories.
How long does the average sugar date last?
As for the duration of the date, usually it takes 4-6 hours to do everything you want. You can have a dinner, go for a walk, and spend time in private. After the date a girl usually goes home. In the rare cases you stay with a sugar babe overnight.
What influences the sugar babies allowance?
First of all, it is the lady herself. Her appearance, her self-esteem, her wishes and her experience. Very often sugar daddy and sugar babies agree on less amount of money just to get into the contest of sugar dating and understand how it works.
Also, the more time a woman spends in sugar dating, the more she earns. Not only because of her experience, but also because she would actively look for the rich sugar daddies and wouldn’t spend time on those who wants to give her less than she desires. An experienced sugar baby has the choice, that’s why she can go for those men who offer her bigger sums.
When do you discuss the payment?
Talking about the financial reward is a stepping stone of a sugar baby/sugar daddy relationship. You both need to know what to look forward to in the relationship and to develop the connection on your own terms. But when is the best time to talk about the payment?
The one time to not discuss the remuneration is the first date. Your first time meeting each other is about the first acquaintance and evaluation of each other, not the financial side of things. On your first date, you need to go with the flow and leave the payment discussion until later dates. There is, however, an exception from this rule: if your date initiates the reward talk herself, you have no choice but to discuss it then and there.
As long as you both know what kind of relationship you are entering, the payment talk can be easily postponed until the third or fourth date. Keep in mind that sugar babies typically have a few tricks up their sleeves to get you to spend more, so if you want to avoid those non-verbal shenanigans, you can discuss the matters via a phone call or a chat.
The best way to pay
There are a few ways you can pay the allowance: cash, card or bank transfer. The safest way for both of the partners is giving the cash after a date. However, you can also send your sugar baby the allowance on Paypal. You can also send the money to your girl’s bank account, but she can find it suspicious if you would ask for her card data, that’s why, although it is an option, you better try something else.
Strange offers from sugar babies
Sometimes sugar babies can behave weird and ask for some strange things. For instance, they can ask for your money before the first date. It looks like a scam and doesn’t feel right. If you do that, you will pay for nothing, so better concern another option and interact with the girl who is more responsible in her attitude to a sugar relationship.
Some ladies may even ask you to pay for texting them, which is a totally crazy thing. You pay for the sugar dating site service, and you don’t have to appreciate a woman for only talking to you.
Some sugar babies might want the money for simple dates without intimacy. However, this kind of relationship doesn’t seem to make sense, and not many people need that, so don’t waste your time on a girl like that.
Apart from the allowance sugar daddies also pay for other things. For example, it would be nice of you make a present on the first date which would cost around $50. Restaurant and taxi bills are also what you pay for. If you are in a long-term relationship with you sugar baby, it is a good idea to pay for her shopping days or give her some presents from time to time. Also, don’t forget that websites like whatsyourprice , sugardaddyforme or sugardaddie usually require a paid membership. But compared to the allowance these expenses aren’t big at all.
Scam in sugar dating
Unfortunately, there are some unfair ladies who want to deceit you and get an allowance without giving anything in return. Here is the list of things they can do to scam you:
- ask for money in advance before the first date;
- take the money at the very beginning of the date and then refuse to have sex with you;
- make your intimacy different from what you have discussed with her before (that’s why it is vital to mention all of the tiniest details in the arrangement):
- ask for an enormous amount of money as she sees that you are new to sugar dating;
- ask for your personal data; a scammer can use it to blackmail you later.
Sugar dating is a beneficial practice for many men, because: you save a lot of time and get right to what you wanted from a relationship. Also, there is a wide choice of young and beautiful women. No strings attached, so you are free to change the partners and even date several girls at once. The whole interaction is on your terms and you set the sugar daddy rules . Therefore, you can stop the relationship anytime you want and nobody can tell you that you are wrong. Sugar dating is full of opportunities, that’s why anybody can give it a try.