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How To Become A Sugar Baby?
How To Become A Sugar Baby?
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How To Become A Sugar Baby?

Bella Stewart
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If you are reading this, you may think of becoming a sugar baby, but before you start looking for a sugar daddy, you should be 100% sure that your expectations are realistic.

So, how to be a sugar baby, and is it for you? We’re going to provide you with all the insights and tips you may need to develop the right strategy, avoid all the pitfalls, and have the best experience possible.


  1. The easiest way to become a sugar baby and find your first sugar partner is to join one of the sugar dating sites
  2. SecretBenefits and are currently the two best sites in the sugar dating market
  3. Social networking sites might be an alternative to sugar sites, but they work worse
  4. Finding a sugar partner in real life is also possible, but it will also take more time and effort
  5. A sugar baby should develop realistic expectations and remember that sugar relationships are never about blatantly paid sex
cute sugar babby in hat

Being a sugar baby: how to become a part of this world?

Technically, becoming a sugar baby is as easy as it seems to be. Every woman can find a sugar daddy on one of the sugar dating sites or even offline. In every case, there will be both advantages and disadvantages that we’re going to discuss below.

Finding potential sugar daddies online

Most people looking for mutually beneficial relationships prefer to use sugar daddy sites to find a partner, and it’s easy to see why. Such niche websites accept people who are interested in this very type of relationship, have useful features aimed at helping a user find a sugar baby or a sugar daddy, and protect members' privacy. All in all, joining one of the good sugar daddy websites improves your chances of finding a partner in the near future.

However, it's crucially important to choose a safe niche website with a large pool of SDs. Here are some of our top picks for women who believe that being a sugar baby is exactly what can make them happier and wealthier:

  • SecretBenefits. It’s currently the largest sugar dating website with tens of millions of members worldwide and over 5 million members in the US. About 2 million members are sugar daddies/mommas. There is a strict verification procedure that allows getting rid of fake accounts. Daddies and mommas provide information on their income.
  • Ashley Madison. This is a popular website (has millions of members worldwide, 15+ million members in the USA) designed for married/attached people who are still looking for a partner. The site works for people seeking sugar arrangements, too.
  • This is another popular sugar website. It accepts sugar daddies only from the 20 countries to ensure that they can afford a sugar baby. Almost 8,000 users login to the site daily.
  • WhatsYourPrice. This sugar dating platform accepts men and women looking for sugar relationships. Currently, it has 30% of sugar daddies worldwide.

You may choose other sugar dating sites if you want to, but we recommend checking their privacy policies (confidentiality is essential), finding out how many rich men use them, and how the site accepts the new daddies (some platforms may accept men who can’t afford a sugar baby, but still look for a hot lady to date).

pretty sugar babby on vacation

By the way, social media accounts work too — there's a chance that if your profile is good enough, you can become a sugar baby almost accidentally if an attractive and successful man finds you on Instagram. Though having a great profile with tons of great photos is always an advantage for a sugar baby, we'd not recommend relying only on it.

How to become a sugar baby: The checklist to attract a sugar daddy

Saying 'I want to be a sugar baby’ and even joining one of the sugar communities isn’t enough to build a successful sugar career. Let’s say, you’ve already chosen one of the sugar daddy websites that meet all your requirements and expectations. What’s next? Here are some tips that will help you succeed:

  • Create a good profile. On top sugar daddy websites, competition between sugar babies is more than just fierce. Provide all the information you'd like potential sugar daddies to know, choose your best photos, and add a video, if possible.
  • Contact SDs. Don't wait for a message from a sugar daddy—try to find men who're interested in the same things as you are, and reach them by sending a wink, like, or a message.
  • Discuss the terms. Yes, a sugar baby and a sugar daddy are both looking for a mutually beneficial relationship, but the terms vary. What are you into and what is not acceptable for you? Learn everything about his desires, too. Discuss the type of payment (a monthly allowance or PPM) and the amount of financial compensation.
  • Meet up sooner rather than later. Don't delay the date—that's the only way to understand if you really match each other.
  • Enjoy your sugar relationship and follow the terms you both approved before starting it.

Now let’s proceed to dating in real life—local or international.

Finding a sugar partner in real life

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Joining a sugar dating site is not the only option for a sugar baby seeking sugar daddy relationships. Though most sugar relationships start online, there are some ways to find a partner in real life, too:

  • Through friends. If you have a friend who's a sugar baby or someone who’s already got into rich circles, you can ask this person for a favor. The chance is they’ll get you an invitation to private parties or other events to meet someone who may become your sugar daddy.
  • By going to fancy places. Attractive women find partners offline pretty easily, but the thing is you'll hardly meet a sugar daddy in Mcdonald's. If you can afford to visit fancy restaurants, hotels, clubs, etc., you can meet someone there, but there are drawbacks, too. In particular, you'll need to explain that you're not into sex work but definitely into sugar relationships.

Note that this may work if you live in one of the places with the largest number of sugar daddies like Miami, NY City, Beverly Hills, etc. As you can see, with these methods, a lot depends on luck, and a sugar baby looking for a sugar daddy IRL will definitely need more time and effort to meet a good partner.

How to become a sugar baby: the essentials each SB needs to know

What makes me a good sugar baby? Actually, it’s the best possible question to ask. If you’re interested in what’s sugar dating, who are sugar babies and sugar daddies in details, you can check our complete guides.

Sugar relationships have nothing to do with straightforward sex-for-money transactions. The very word “dating” in this term refers to the things we usually mean by dating: the arrangement that involves chemistry, compatibility, and companionship. That’s why most researchers, dictionaries, and even daters themselves define sugar dating as long-term relationships (or short-term sugar relationships, depending on partners themselves) that are somewhere in between regular dating and escort. The fact that a mutually beneficial arrangement is supposed to involve companionship, emotional connection, and mutual attraction of any kind proves that though it’s not a vanilla relationship, it’s still a relationship.

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Hence, a sugar baby is a female or a male who is sponsored by their partner who pays for their time and companionship, including sexual favors. People often confuse it with a FWB relationship or NSA relationship, but though you can be friends or have no strings attached, financial care is what distinguishes sugar arrangements from all other types of relationships.

Note that there are multiple researches that confirm that in sugar relationships, companionship is the primary element, while sponsorship is a secondary element. This very fact helps many sugar babies get rid of hesitation related to the association of sugar dating with prostitution. Yes, money still plays a big role in such a relationship, but it’s never just about taking money for the services provided. 

The most important thing for a sugar baby: Realistic expectations

Please note that though sugar dating is not an escort, sugar babies should still be realistic about such relationships. In some promotional campaigns of top sugar daddy websites, benefactors are depicted as altruistic generous men who will do anything for you, care for you and pay for you without expecting anything in exchange.

In particular, they depict such perfect “princes” as the ones who wouldn’t expect sex before your 20th date and who would agree to pay for all those dates, as well as a sugar baby’s bills. Remember that these relationships are “mutually beneficial”, so a sugar daddy (who can really be kind, likable, and well-mannered, of course) will still expect you to give him the things he wants from his baby, from trust and fun to the physical.

Want to become a male sugar baby? It’s simple, too

Things work the same for male sugar babies. Just like female babies, they don’t jump straight into sex, and their sugar mommas or daddies support them financially, as well. More importantly, top sites accept members looking for same-sex relationships as well as sugar boys looking for mommies. If you want to become a sugar boy, you can also join SecretBenefits,, and WhatsYourPrice.

Motivation for becoming a sugar baby: The top 4 reasons for seeking daddy

Obviously, a sugar daddy pays a sugar baby. But what exactly does this mean? Do they pay bills or give high-end gifts? Or maybe both? Is there anything besides money that a sugar baby can get? Well, here are some benefits of being in a sugar relationship.

  1. Money and/or gifts. As we have noted above, sponsorship is still an essential part of sugar dating. In fact, women may decide to start a sugar career for different reasons.  Sometimes, it’s largely about paying student loans. Some SBs want a sugar daddy to cover their living expenses, while other SBs expect to live a fancy glamorous life and wear high-end clothes from the most recognizable fashion brands. The thing is, all of them can get what they want. After all, it is part of the agreement, and a lady is one of the parties who define the conditions.

  2. It’s your choice. People who don’t like the idea of sugar dating usually say that babies need to date “ugly” old men for money. It’s not true. Yes, a sugar daddy is usually significantly older than a sugar baby (often, SDs are 45-55 years old), but you’d be surprised to find out how many good-looking men (married or not) look for sugar dates. Moreover, you are the one who makes a choice. If you join a good platform, you will be able to search for a good match with plenty of filters, including height, weight, hair color, etc.

  3. Mentorship. Sometimes, we all need a mentor—the one who will give us wise advice, tell us how to cope with difficulties, and become better versions of ourselves. And again, sugar dating is not only about money, and not only about chemistry—for most sugar daddies, but it’s also a possibility to meet, date, hug, have dinners, and have sex with a beautiful young woman, and for women, it’s a possibility to find a mentor who’d support her, as financially, as mentally.

  4. Travels. That’s what a lot of sugar babies love most. A lot of sugar daddies prefer to go on vacations with their gorgeous partners. For many, it is the only chance to see the world and enjoy all those trips with a man they respect.

What about the earnings? According to the statistics provided by a top sugar dating site WhatsYourPrice, a sugar baby earns about $2,800 a month. This is the average sum, though, so you can earn more or less, so choose a sugar daddy carefully. 

Things to know before being a sugar baby: Forewarned is forearmed

Of course, sugar dating has its benefits, as well as drawbacks. However, the more you know about the danger, the better your chance to protect yourself. That’s why we recommend taking a close look at the list below: 

  1. Beauty is not forever. Some researchers note that though babies have power over their benefactors, it’s not forever. Being financially supported by someone rich may be addictive, and it’s not forever. That’s why it is crucially important to remind yourself that you need a plan B. Babies who keep this in mind usually save, go to college, invest in something, etc., not to be fully dependent on sugar daddies. Living in the moment is fun, but you also need to think about tomorrow.

  2. Not feeling good about yourself. It’s important to understand that sugar dating is not for everyone. Some girls and boys underestimate themselves or have self-respect issues, and that means only one thing—they should quit. There are SBs who don’t feel guilty about dating a married man or just getting paid by a partner. Not all people are like that, and that’s perfectly normal. If you feel negative emotions associated with your relationships, consider putting your mental health first.

  3. Scam. Take all necessary safety precautions. A daddy who finds excuses not to pay you for a few previous dates and/or claims he’s a billionaire but takes you to the cheapest place is likely to be a scammer. Just move on. That’s not going to work. Also, we’d recommend choosing platforms where benefactors need to verify their income to avoid such scenarios.

  4. Jealousy is not okay. Sometimes, babies and daddies discuss and agree that a baby shouldn’t date anyone else. In this case, a daddy definitely has the right to end this relationship if you go out with someone else or just get mad if he notices something is obviously wrong. Still, if you didn’t discuss an exclusive relationship, and he is pathologically jealous, it is a bad sign.

Yes, certain difficulties may arise. There is a way to avoid them, though. Just follow all the safety rules, try to understand who you are dating, be realistic, and think about tomorrow. If you’re going to choose a non-standard scheme of a relationship (for example, a non-exclusive relationship with a sugar daddy and your boyfriend), think about your strategy even more carefully. If you are a rational person who understands that though sugar dating can give you the life you wouldn’t have otherwise, it still doesn’t mean that you can be careless or dream of Mr. Christian Gray, a billionaire who will fall in love with you forever.

Can sugar baby have a relationship with someone else?

Sugar dating is a popular type of relationship for open-minded men and women. Boundaries are set, but there are no negative emotions, control, jealousy, or other things that usually spoil vanilla relationships. A sugar baby shares her time, provides support, and offers companionship in exchange for financial assistance and other material benefits like gifts.

asking man

Sugar babies and sugar daddies feel happy in such a relationship because each of them gets what they want. However, some newbie sugar babies wonder: is it possible to date two or more sugar daddies at once? Or is it possible to have a traditional boyfriend while dating a sugar daddy?

So here’s the answer to your question on whether you can date someone else when dating a sugar daddy—yes, you can, but it depends.

You can kill two (or more) birds with one stone, but only if it won’t result in more stress and anxiety for you. If you don’t get too emotionally attached to someone, and if dating multiple partners has never been a problem, and you can manage your plans easily, that might work.

#1. Is your sugar daddy against you dating someone else?

Not all sugar daddies (who are usually serious people with high self-esteem and strong egos) might want to see their favorite sugar babies dating other sugar daddies (they may be less worried about traditional boyfriends, though). If you hide the fact that you’re seeing other rich men, your sugar daddy may end a relationship. Moreover, it may negatively affect your career as a sugar baby.  

So what should you do? Be honest. Even before you start dating, ask a sugar daddy what he thinks about it. Will he accept the fact that you’ll be dating other wealthy guys? If yes, then the problem is solved. If not, well, you’ll have to choose between him, other sugar daddies, or secret affairs with other sugar daddies (which is very risky for you) or look for another sugar daddy.

#2. Does your boyfriend know you are a sugar baby?

Here honesty is the key too. Dating a sugar daddy while being in a traditional relationship will be unveiled sooner or later. It would be really hard to explain all the cash or gifts that you get from «nowhere». You won’t be able to hide it for too long.

You can tell your boyfriend about your preferences directly—there’s a chance that he’ll understand you. Some couples even say that spices up their relationship.

a couple

#3. How do you feel about that?

Some women are monogamous. Some are not. Who are you? It’s all about your feelings and perceptions. If you want to date several sugar daddies at a time and are likely to enjoy such an experience, why not? You should only discuss (or try to discuss) it directly with all your partners. 

What about the sugar daddy?

Now you know how to become a sugar baby. But the truth is you should also know how to be a successful sugar baby. In fact, one of the most important rules of being a sugar baby is keeping your relationship private. You can tell someone from your close circle about your experience if you want to, but you should never disclose any information about your benefactor.

Over 40% of sugar daddies are married, but even if your sugar daddy doesn’t have a wife or a girlfriend, he won’t like the idea of publicizing your relationship. You can always ask him if he is fine with you talking about the arrangement with others.

All in all, listen to your heart and be honest with your partners, especially sugar daddies. The latter are different so talking to them in advance about your vision of sugar dating is crucial. Don’t miss that chance.

Bella Stewart
Bella Stewart
Bella is a sugar baby with over 5 years of experience. She signed up for her first sugar dating website when she was 22, met many successful men, including actual millionaires, and now, she’s sharing her knowledge, secret tips, and useful insights into the sugar world with visitors of
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