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How To Find A Sugar Momma? How To Meet And Date
How To Find A Sugar Momma? How To Meet And Date
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How To Find A Sugar Momma? How To Meet And Date

Vernon Marshall
pretty sugar momma in red

Is the sugar world a man's world? Not exactly. Sugar relationships are mutually beneficial relationships, so why shouldn't successful women seek them, too? 

A sugar mama is a wealthy mature woman who doesn’t mind dating a younger partner and compensating him for his time. A young man who dates a sugar mama is considered a male sugar baby. Such a relationship is compensated dating—a couple enjoys the time they spend together, have dates, go on vacations, and do all the things that regular couples do (in 90% that includes sexual intimacy), but a sugar baby gets paid (gets a weekly/monthly allowance or is paid per meet) for his time.


  1. The easiest way to find a sugar momma is to join one of the top sugar momma sites
  2. Currently, CougarPourMoi is considered to be the most effective sugar momma dating platform for sugar babies & sugar cubs
  3. Mainstream “vanilla” sites and apps may work too, but they work not that well, and finding a partner will take much more time
  4. You’ll need a competitive online dating profile to succeed on a sugar momma site or a mainstream dating site 
  5. Sugar momma dating is always about positive emotions, financial support, respect for boundaries, and never about blatantly paid sex
sugar momma on couch

What's the best place to find a sugar mama? The easiest way is to meet female benefactors is to look for them online, preferably on niche websites and apps. 

Here, you'll find the best sugar momma apps, as well as premium and free sugar momma sites, as well as some insights into the world of sugar momma dating.

Where to find a sugar momma?

If you’re looking for a sugar mama, you need to find a platform that will help you do it quickly and easily.

The good news is there are pretty many sugar dating sites and sugar dating apps that accept sugar mamas and female/male sugar babies looking for them in the market. By the way, some of them are completely free to use.

List of the best sugar momma websites

We’re constantly monitoring the market in search of the most promising platforms, and these are our best picks at the moment: 

  1. CougarLife — launched nearly 20 years ago, it’s still the best site for sugar momma dating overall 
  2. SecretBenefits — a sugar dating app with the largest number of members and some interesting features
  3. Emily Dates — a simple, intuitive, and very popular sugar momma/sugar daddy platform

How to get a sugar mommy on these platforms? That’s exactly what we’re going to discuss below. 

Cougar Life

cougarlife site

CougarLife is one of the rare sites specifically designed for sugar mamas and SBs looking for them. Like most other sugar dating platforms, it has more members seeking sponsorship than benefactors. At the moment, there are around 70% of male members and 30% of cougars registered on the site. Still, due to the concept, getting a sugar momma here is still easier than on many other sites that accept SDs, too.

Cougar life has premium and free features. You can sign up for the site and edit your profile for free, browse profiles and send flirts while messaging, virtual gifts, and priority messages are available only to Premium members. Currently, the site has more than 3 million users in the USA only and accepts members from other countries, too.

Secret Benefits

SecretBenefits is currently the most popular sugar dating website. It has members worldwide, accepts sugar daddies, sugar mamas, and, of course, both male and female sugar babies. 

Secret Benefits is partially free for sugar babies and not too expensive for sugar mommas and sugar daddies. Online messenger is the key communication service, but there are also some additional features that improve the user experience, making this platform one of the best.

For example, there are tons of filters that will help you find sugar momma, view profiles and photos, filter inbox messages, add others to Favorites, etc. But the best thing is the community itself—a lot of people are looking for a sugar relationship on this platform, so the chance to meet an ideal date on Secret Benefits is higher than on most other sites.

Emily Dates

emilydates site

Wonder where to find sugar mommas? Try the global dating site designed exclusively for sugar daters. EmilyDates is very easy to use, so it works perfectly for beginners.

There are plenty of search filters that help you find an ideal match by age, relationship goals, and, of course, appearance. Messaging, as well as emails and additional features like sending winks, are available. 

The website is carefully moderated, and most profiles are pretty detailed, so you'll hardly need to guess what your potential sugar mama looks like and if she is real or not. Members who want to boost their accounts can purchase as many credits as they need—there's no way to pay for monthly premium membership plans.

List of the best sugar momma apps

Do you prefer to look for matches on apps instead of sites? If so, take a look at the best apps for sugar babies, sugar mommas, and sugar daddies.

  1. CougarLife App—a reputable and popular sugar momma dating app that works perfectly on iOS devices
  2. Tinder—probably the most popular matchmaking app nowadays which is, however, not a 100% sugar dating app
  3. Badoo—400,000,000 users, very convenient chat, classic swiping feature, and a great reputation make Badoo one of the best options for online dating
  4. OkCupid—with over 1.8 million registered users and an opportunity to send messages for free, OkCupid is a good choice for those seeking a dating app (unfortunately, the number of sugar daddies/mommas isn't that high here

Consider your specific priorities and you’ll choose the best place to find a sugar momma quickly and easily. 

Cougar Life App

If you’re looking for sugar mommy, Cougar Life will probably be the best choice for those searching for a sugar momma—its reputation, set of premium features, and tens of thousands of active profiles make it a great platform for any potential sugar baby. But it’s not only about the desktop version of CougarLife—the CougarLife mobile app is also great for sugar momma dating.

Basically, the only problem of the app is that it’s only available for iOS devices (Android users can use the mobile version of the site, though). Other than that, everything is just great about it:

  • Minimalistic and easy-to-use interface 
  • All the desktop features and services available, from advanced search to messaging 
  • Private Keys and Private Photos are available in the app, too 
  • Convenient live chat
  • Thousands of generous sugar mommas who want to meet a cub!


tinder screenshots

Are you looking for an easy-to-use and free sugar momma app? Why not use good old Tinder? In fact, many successful male sugar babies note that they've met their sugar mommas on this platform. It works pretty well for sugar daters. However, there is one thing that all sugar daters should consider: if you want to find a sugar partner, you need to be specific and honest in your profile or at least give some hints that will help others understand that you're not looking for "vanilla dating".


badoo screenshots

Does Badoo work for people looking for a serious relationship? Yes, of course. It's currently one of the most popular dating apps. Does it work for those who are looking for a sugar momma relationship? Yes, and pretty well, actually. The platform is obviously focused on mobile—it's super easy to look for matches, communicate with other users, and enjoy texting. If standard features don’t deliver the best experience, you can upgrade your account to premium and enjoy using the app anonymously, see who liked them, contact users right away, etc.


okcupid screenshots

OkCupid is another big player in the online dating market. Among its millions and millions of members worldwide, a large percentage of people are using the platform to find their first sugar momma relationships. There is no need to Google something like "sugar momma near me"—you can just apply search filters to find the best matches in your area. Moreover, women don’t have to pay for using the platform. If you still want to use not only standard but also special features, you can get a premium plan at a reasonable price. That's how you can enjoy interacting with potential sugar mamas and see no annoying ads, see profiles of users who’ve already liked your profile, use the Anonymous mode, etc.

Regular "vanilla" dating sites

Is it possible to find a sugar momma on sites like Bumble and Zoosk? Yes, in some cases, such platforms can work as sugar momma websites, too—usually, it just takes more time and effort to find a partner. Still, let's take a look at what these sites offer can offer to a user.


Of course, Bumble isn't one of the sugar momma apps, but there are many people who've met their sugar daddies, sugar mommas, or find perfect sugar babies on this platform. Experienced SBs recommend not to use your main account to find a sugar momma or a sugar daddy—a separate profile will work better. A user should also note that they want to find a sugar momma without saying it directly—otherwise, the profile can just deleted by moderators. For instance, you can indicate that you’re looking for an older, generous woman—a sugar mama will understand your message anyway.

As for the features, the site can be used for free. Not only messaging but also matching services and rematches are available to non-paying members. Those who upgrade their membership, however, can also use Super Swipe and see the list of people who swiped right.


Zoosk is the platform that works for all, including people looking for all types of sugar relationships. And the chance to succeed is pretty high there, too—currently, the site has over 40 million members worldwide, which means that there will be at least hundreds of thousands of those who want to find sugar momma and sugar mamas themselves.

Unlike other popular dating apps and sites, Zoosk doesn’t offer free messaging. Standard members can do multiple things, for example, use the Carousel features, send other members hearts and/or smiles, view profiles without any limitations. Still, only paying members can use Zoosk's best features. Those who pay for a monthly membership can send messages, get smart matches (Smart Picks), have live chat, and also see the members who liked them.

How to get a sugar momma online?

Here is a short tip list for those who need some help in dating sugar mommas or those who just want to refresh their knowledge:

  • Find the best sugar momma dating app—by choosing the best one, you’ll increase your chances to really find a partner, not just to spend some time chatting with fake profiles. Such platforms as Cougar Life and SecretBenefits are the best options you can find!

  • Create a dating profile and don’t skip any steps. Answer the questions about yourself, write a profile description, upload your best photos—your profile must stand out from the crowd to attract a sugar momma. 

  • Buy a premium membership even if it’s not needed—even the “free” sugar momma dating sites usually have such an option. Premium sugar babies get their profiles highlighted, thus increasing their chances to attract a sugar momma.

sugar momma dating online

These are the simplest steps you can take to find a sugar partner. However, there should be more steps and details to remember—and now we will consider the dating process.

How to date a sugar momma?

Now you know how to find a sugar momma. However, choosing the right dating site or a sugar momma app is only half the battle. You should also know what exactly sugar mamas expect from a younger lover. After all, it's not about sex. So what personality traits and qualities should an ideal sugar baby have?

  • Confidence. Women like confident men, and older women who want to date young men are not an exception to this rule. Just remind yourself of your best qualities, relax, and enjoy interaction with your woman. If you have any doubts or realize that you feel bad about dating an older woman, maybe this type of relationship is just not for you.

  • Education and intelligence. Of course, you don’t have to hold a doctor’s degree. Also, we aren’t going to deny that some financially set women are ready to become benefactors for handsome boys who don't care about anything but their PS, Instagram, and fancy lifestyle, but many sugar mamas are attracted to intelligent men. After all, it's essential to have good conversations, not only good sex, so if you want to become a successful sugar baby, reading books and learning new things about the world is always a good idea.

  • Care about looks. A younger guy can become a successful SB easily if he understands that his looks are important. A sugar mummy is likely to notice and start dating a good-looking man who prefers stylish outfits and goes to a gym regularly. 

  • Ambitions matter, too. If you ask a sugar mommy if she wants to date a young hot guy or a young hot guy with ambitions, she'll choose the second option just because for most women, ambition, dedication, and motivation are the things that make men much sexier.

sugar momma with male sugar baby

Basically, sugar mommas are interested in exactly the same things as sugar daddies. They are seeking beauty, good conversation skills, good communication, and quality time with their partners. Things like intelligence, level of education, and personal and professional ambition are less important, but they still matter for many benefactors. So, a highly sociable, witty, and good-looking, relaxed, and confident sugar baby will be highly popular on dating sites and in real life.

Benefits of being a sugar baby and dating a sugar mama

Why do young adults start looking for a sugar daddy or a successful older woman on a dating site? It may seem that the answer is obvious—it's just about money. However, young people who've already dated wealthy women or men note that they get more than that.

  • A good relationship that incorporates companionship, romance, and often authentic feelings. Contrary to popular belief, sugar dating is actually dating. Financial compensation is an essential but not the only element.

  • Good sex. A lot of young men say that they appreciate it when their partner is really experienced—most male SBs enjoy intimacy with their partners.

  • Financial support. For many SBs, it's not just an opportunity to have that fancy lifestyle but also a good chance to get an education, have better living conditions, save some money for business, etc.

  • Honesty. Sugar partners do not need to hide anything—they discuss all the terms, come to an agreement, and in the end, get a relationship they both like. Such a relationship model allows both partners to be 100% honest with one another, avoid negative emotions associated with traditional vanilla relationships, and benefit from what they have together either emotionally or financially, or both.

So, if you find the person who meets all your expectations and criteria, offers support, becomes not only your SM but also your companion, this will be a great experience overall.

Conclusion: Is sugar momma dating worth it?

So, should you choose a dating site to find a female benefactor and probably mentor? You need to answer this question yourself. As we have noted previously, many SBs note that such type of dating was exactly what they were always seeking. Some users who tried it, too, argue that sugar mama dating negatively affected their self-esteem. The thing is, you need to give serious thought to the idea of finding your first sugar mummy online.

If you think that will be a great experience, you can sign up for any of the free or premium online dating sites or use sugar mummy apps—that works much better than trying to find a SM at parties, through friends, at restaurants, etc. Just choose the right platform, consider the recommendations that we provided in this guide, and start looking for a sugar momma that'd be an ideal partner for you.

Vernon Marshall
Vernon Marshall
Within the previous 4 years, Vernon, the founder and owner of a VIP sugar dating agency, has helped over 300 people seeking something more than vanilla relationships find their perfect partners. Being an expert in the field, he is our core advisor when it comes to making ratings and reviews.
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